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I gave the same speech twice in one day this week. When that happens, I pay attention, because it usually means everybody needs to hear it. So here it is. Right now the whole world wants you to believe you're screwed. AI is coming for your job. The market's going down. The art market, the housing...

Oct 22, 2026

Good at it. Paid well. Not happy.

Last week I had a consult with a woman who has been in her career for ten years. She's good at it. She keeps getting promoted. She's making real money. And she is not happy. She said it the way most people say it to me, almost apologizing, like she wasn't allowed to complain. Who walks away from ...

Oct 20, 2026

We’re not just ending a chapter. We’re ending the book.

A woman came back to our VIP call this week after five years away. The last time I saw her, she was trying to save her marriage. She was doing what we teach: she stopped walking on eggshells and started having the honest conversations. Then the whole thing detonated. The truth came out, the mar...

Oct 15, 2026

What are you telling yourself that isn’t true?

I caught myself creating a theory mid-sentence this week. I’m dating, and I heard myself say, “The men I like don’t like me, and the men who like me, I don’t like.” And then the rest of it showed up right on schedule: so I’m either going to have to settle or be alone. It sounded so reasonable...

Oct 13, 2026

Believing is a verb

On Wednesday’s group call, a woman who’s been working on love said something I’ve heard in a hundred versions. She’s feeling good, she’s going out, she’s not hating on men anymore. But when Lauren asked her how certain she was that she’s meeting her person, she hesitated. If she said she was ce...

Oct 09, 2026

Are you a fault hunter?

(Invite to a party below) On a group call last week, one of our members was telling us about the dating she's been doing. She's having more fun, she's catching herself faster, and things are getting lighter. Then she started picking apart a guy she'd met: what he did wrong, what he should hav...

Oct 06, 2026

You're allowed to change your mind

On a call this week, someone in our group told me the real reason she hadn't committed to her dream. She was afraid that saying yes to one thing meant saying no to everything else she might want someday. I love that she said it out loud, because almost everyone has that voice, and almost everyone...

Oct 01, 2026

Are you a one or a two?

Last week on a group call, a woman told us she'd just signed a work contract she'd been chasing for months. The agreement was clean. Her rate held. She had the materials organized and her ideas ready. Kickoff was the next morning. And she was a wreck. "The person I'm helping doesn't really want ...

Sep 29, 2026

What did you not ask for this week?

A while back, I made myself a promise that I'd collect one no every single day. Not a yes. A no. I did it because I finally admitted how much my fear of rejection was running my life. I wasn't asking for things. I was hinting, hoping, waiting to be noticed, and then quietly resenting it when nobo...

Sep 23, 2026

Your career is not going to fix itself

Hi [First Name], Let's talk about your job. You've been at this for 20, 25, 30 years. You're good at it. And you're bored, or resentful, or watching people younger than you get the opportunities you should have. Maybe you've told yourself it's fine. Maybe you tell yourself that every Sunday nig...

Sep 21, 2026

Why Powerfully Proud

In December, I ask people the same question: How do you feel about this year? And almost nobody says "proud." They say tired. Behind. Relieved it's over. They say "next year will be different", which is well-intentioned and all but hard to believe in. Here's what I know after doing this work fo...

by Lauren Zander — Sep 17, 2026